Sunday, February 5, 2012

Skid Marks or Beauty Marks?

What kind of mark have you left? ... As I was driving in the car by myself the other day I was thinking of a terribly sad story I had read on the internet. I'm unsure if it's true, but it was about a man who wanted a divorce from his wife because he was in love with another woman... to sum the story up as quickly as I can, basically the wife made a condition for the son's sake (so he could finish school without their marriage as a burden). The condition was that each morning her husband would carry her out of their bedroom down to the car to start each day-- as he did on their wedding day, for one month. He did... at first it was awkward, and gradually intimacy grew. He began to remember who she really was to him, the things she did, how she gave 10 years of her life to their family and marriage and all that she put into it. By the end of the month, he realized he did not want the divorce, but that he still loved his wife after all; he had just lost sight of who she was... after running to tell his mistress goodbye, he ran to pick up flowers, on the card he wrote: "I'll carry you until death do us part"... when he arrived home, she was laying on their bed, she had passed away from cancer. This is why she made the condition. She didn't want to have any guilt on her husband or leave things badly before she was gone... Like I said, I'm not sure if its a true story, but all I know is this... while I was driving all I could think about is how valuable our time is here on this earth. And God has given us the people that are closes to us. The people in our lives in our circle of influence. It is our duty, responsibility, and privilege to serve these people and be the best we can be for their betterment. And the people closest to us are highest priority. Our spouses, children parents, siblings, family, our best friends... so I put myself in her shoes... What would make my husband stay? What would he remember? Would he find things to remember to love about me? What would I want him to love about me? What would I want him to remember about me? From here sprung my new inspiration. My new mission.... is to leave a lasting impression- a legacy- on my husband's heart. I think each of us should be committed to this (married or not) to be the kind of person that will be remembered for her honorable qualities. If I were gone tomorrow- what would I want my husband to remember and cherish about me for the rest of his life? ... Beyond that, what about my children, my siblings, my cousins, my parents, my best friends?... I want to leave a legacy. 

1 comment:

  1. You'd leave a great legacy dear! You inspire us all in so many ways!

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